Monday, January 7, 2008

Twelve Questions About Our 10,531 Mile Move

1. What Does It Mean to Change Your Home Base?

2. Why We Run A Non-Profit Without Marketing?

3. What About the Children in China / South Africa?

4. How Did We Make The Decision To Move?

5. How Will JR Support His Family?

6. How Will Gift of Joy Money Be Used?

7. Can Teams Come and Help With Flood Relief?

8. Will You Lead Teams to China and South Africa?

9. Status of Building School Computer Labs?

10. What’s it like Picking-Up the Boys in a Township?

11. How do Anita and the kids feel about moving?  You can ask her by emailing her at anita@giftofjoy.org

12. Do You Have Other Questions?  Email me at jr@giftofjoy.org

1. What Does It Mean to Change Your Home Base?

As of February 2008, we will no longer be FULL time – OVERSEAS. We will be based in Centralia / Chehalis, WA, USA. This amazing community has sent us out to enable other communities, but now it is time to give back. A few weeks ago, the Pacific Northwest of the United States was attacked by a massive storm that destroyed 1000 homes around Centralia and 7000 in the region. At first the reports said the area was devastated. After a closer look, we have found that was an understatement.


We are welcoming teams to come join us to help with the mass
ive cleanup. Centralia is a giving community that has sent multitudes around the globe to help others in need. One family returned from assisting us in South Africa for 5 weeks and now everything they have is lost. Even the best of families find the stress overwhelming when everything they have is covered with mud, water damaged, or missing. Add to that situation – they are homeless. We want to contribute to rebuilding this generous community of amazing families.

As we have traveled around the world one thing is clear. We miss and love our family and friends from home. Grandma June Bug is turning 99 soon! Amanda and Josiah are now school aged and it is time to have a stable home. Some people are fortunate to have 2 close friends their whole life, yet we have a whole community of the best … most supportive friends, and we miss them.

Another benefit of being based in Centralia, WA USA: it’s my home land, so it is much easier to build a long lasting business. Yes, you will find our family rebuilding our real estate business at Coldwell Banker Kline & Associates with my great friends Craig and Connie Kline. Man, that statement gets me excited!

But now Centralia will be our base of operation. Once we get our business profitable it will not only support our family but also be a long-term financial base for supporting teams in the future. We will also continue offering the tools that have enabled so many in China and South Africa. “Financial Peace University”, “Dream Builder”, “Character Training”, and “The Kingdom of Heaven”.

God is truly sending us to Centralia, WA USA!

But leaving does come at a cost. Amanda and Josiah don’t want to leave the boys, and I just received a phone call from them because they realized we are not taking our 2-year-old Golden Retriever or our 7-month Labrador retriever. The kids have had some good crying sessions.

(Watch More) You can watch a news report on the devastation in Centralia, WA USA

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2. Why We Run A Non-Profit Without Marketing

We take the things Jesus says very seriously. One of the things He said was,

“Watch out! Don’t do your good deeds publicly, to be admired by others, for you will lose the reward from your Father in heaven. When you give to someone in need, don’t do as the hypocrites do–blowing trumpets in the synagogues and streets to call attention to their acts of charity! I tell you the truth, they have received all the reward they will ever get. But when you give to someone in need, don’t let your left hand know what your right hand is doing. Give your gifts in private, and your Father, who sees everything, will reward you.”

For the last 10 years we have been running Gift of Joy as employees … for God. When we needed money we said, “God this was your idea, so you better pay your bills if you want your idea to succeed.

When we depend on God and not others, it is great! All our friends are true friends, NOT donors! Some of my best friends have never given a cent, but their friendship is priceless. Some have spontaneously given generously without prompting, and once again, their friendship is priceless. Some have had to stop giving, and once again, their friendship is priceless.

There is an amazing fact that we can ALL celebrate. In June 2006, we ran out of money. What did we do? We didn’t worry, because this work wasn’t our idea. We said, “God if you want us to do this, it requires some resources.” Result: We may have had to work really hard, and at times wait longer than we wanted, but we have never been without. Actually we have lived in surprising abundance. We have seen this for the past 10 years and 10 years is not luck. We have never had to appeal to men. God is faithful to his ideas! We can all celebrate and say, “God always pays His bills! We just need to do the things on God’s mind.

At the same time we want to say “Thank You” for all of you who have believed in us sent resources, encouragement, and visited! God works through people. In the same way many children have seen God through us, we have seen God through you and you enabled those children to see God through us!

(Watch More) You can watch a video of one of our heroes

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3. What About The Children in China / South Africa?


What will happen now that we are not present in China or South Africa? Great question! We feel like we are in a maze and discovering opportunities around each corner. We just keep moving forward.

In China, most of the children will finish high school this year and three of them Karen, Jace, and Kelly are qualified to attend university overseas. My dream is that they could study at Centralia Community College, but we will see. Steven is continuing his study in South Africa. Others will work and study in China. Lucy had some of the best opportunities to study overseas but God spoke clearly to her that she needs to stay in China, work, study and make a difference there. The children in China have turned into adults.

Now they want to start their own training center helping children who come from the same conditions in which they started. We have seen them almost every six months since leaving and spent excellent time with them. We are honored by the honor they show us. They are regularly approaching us though email and SKYPE asking for advice as if we are their parents.

The 20 boys here in South Africa are: Cameron, Jawhan, Estephlyn, Curtley, Clivan, Hershal, Eljoran, Christophan, Lushane, Salvadore, Godwyn. Baloyi Rito, Netshiya Muengedzi, Ndou Lindelani Rueben, Tshivhase Rolivhuwa, Nevhulambe Fightwell, Mondlane Fumani Given, Baloyi Mashudu Simson, Tshavhudi Rendani, and Silimo Aneaho. Their ages range from 6 – 13 years.

What you need to understand is that we have gone through a multitude of boys to find these 20. These are outstanding boys. The very best! Unfortunately if they are not given any input or fathering these boys will become like the environment in which they are residing.

When we started with these boys the lessons were almost laughable: How to use the toilet, the benefits of closing the door to the toilet and how many should use the toilet at the same time. Now we have progressed to bigger and better topics like:

1. Be careful what you see, because you become what you see.

2. Work hard and become a leader. Be lazy and become a slave.

3. Every moment you make choices. Choices create your legacy. What legacy do you choose?

4. Character Training: Attentiveness, Orderliness, Virtue, Forgiveness, Obedience, Truthfulness, Sincerity, Generosity, & Gratefulness

5. “The Kingdom of Heaven” and “Dream Builder”

Our plan is to bring teams back to South Africa to hold camps for these boys. If you would like to join the upcoming trip in July 2008, please let us know.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eR2b7WurHSI

(Watch) Here is a news report about a boy similar to ours

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4. How Did We Make The Decision To Move?


Simple answer: Two years ago we planned to invest a year, and hand the work over. But we fell in love with South Africa. If you ever get a chance to join one of our teams to South Africa you must do it. The cultures, the people, the natural beauty, the mix of first and third world, the “wildness”, and the most amazing part … the children.

As things developed in South Africa we became so encouraged that our desire was to keep working with the boys and see them mature into men. With all the optimism we pushed forward, however, the more determined we got and the more we pushed, the clearer it became, “A change was coming.”

There were so many road signs pointing us to Centralia, WA, USA. But we didn’t want to just quit and leave South Africa without a powerful win! We spent the last year testing every door and checking under every stone. The work with the boys has been a huge success, but something inside us has been stirring us to base in Centralia.

Anita and I finally got away for a three day retreat in November to seek the wisdom and heart of Jesus. It quickly became clear that our season of FULL TIME overseas was ending and a passion developed inside me for building my real estate business again.

A month later the Pacific Northwest of the USA was attacked by a massive storm that wiped out 1000 homes in the Centralia area, and 7000 homes in the region. The people in that community have supported my business and Gift of Joy for years. Now it is my turn to support them. While based in the USA we will host teams for the relief effort there and lead teams to South Africa and China.

(View Centralia Newspaper)  Centralia WA  USA Flood Coverage 

(Watch) See a video about the great development in South Africa

(Watch) See a video about a township in South Africa

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5. How Will JR Support His Family?


In 1998 JR left an established Real Estate business to go to China for a year. When he told an older retired mentor in real estate about his plans of going to China, the response was, “What the #!?% are you thinking! You are at the top. Don’t stop now.” But one year turned into ten.

After ten years:

  • 150,000 miles of economy air travel
  • 3 children: born on 3 different continents
  • Only one wife: a really great one
  • Learning to speak Chinese
  • Caught in the midst of anti USA riots in China in 1999
  • Making friends with 41 Chinese secret police in 2005
  • 25 fully committed children in China and 20 in South Africa
  • Training over 1000 children in Asia and Africa
  • Speaking before thousands of university students in China
  • Building the “Dream Builder” system
  • Doing things that most people only dream about

Now we are excited to announce that we are back in real estate! The scary thing is … we are entering a horrible real estate market … but once again, if this is what God is leading us to … He must pay His bills. At the same time, I am happy to work a second job for a while until I get my business profitable again. Just let us know how we can serve.

We want to use our real estate business as a platform to serve and give back to the community: friends, family, and clients. We have five very practical and powerful tools:

1. Inviting teams to come help relieve families recovering from the massive floods.

2. “Financial Peace University

3. “Dream Builder: Choices For Your Legacy”

4. “Character Training” and “The Kingdom of Heaven

5. A pursuit of excellence in real estate service.

Oh by the way … if someone you know would appreciate the level of enthusiasm we have in any of those areas, just contact us.

(Watch) See a short clip from “Financial Peace University

(Watch) See a short clip related to “Dream Builder”

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6. How Will Gift of Joy Money Be Used


First of all: “Thank you” to all of you who have faithfully supported the children of Gift of Joy! You have been partners with us in greater ways than we will ever be able to explain.

Since we left for South Africa in April 2006 we have discovered so much! First: South Africa is very complex! Far more complex than anyone could begin to imagine. There are cultures, emotions, attitudes, mentalities, politics, habits, and … habits are hard to break.

Before we left for South Africa we were given the impression that the local people would be involved in our efforts. We were tremendously disappointed when we finally realized that we are actually alone here.

During the last two years we have met with numerous leaders in government, education, business, computer industry, Rotary, churches and missions to develop a workable plan. We have poured massive amounts of effort into numerous week-long camps throughout South Africa for the leaders mentioned above.

For the local people we have held a course called “Financial Peace University” which had a tremendous impact on families in the townships. Through our camps the teachers located numerous boys who attended camps at our home. Now we have focused in on the camps for the 11 most exceptional boys.

To keep a child in school in South Africa is relatively inexpensive. As little as $30 (USD) a year! But sending the children to school is not really making a big difference in the children. Recent pass reports for the Jeffreys Bay region were only 56%. YET! the boys we are selecting are thriving in a nightmarish situation. We want to keep them pointed in the most powerful direction. We don’t want to just keep these boys alive but provide them with world-class opportunities.

Many times we felt pressured to give or spend money on students because you had been entrusting us with your money, and we felt on obligation to show something for it. But so many organizations come and DUMP millions in Africa. Now the African people have stopped working because they know people will come and GIVE money. I get phone calls all the time from people asking for money, but when I ask why they need the money the root is often laziness. So we have become highly selective on whom we will help.

Our theme has become “Work hard and become a leader; be lazy and become a slave.” Proverbs 12:24

We also rediscovered … adults like things the way they are … so don’t mess with the adults. Children are teachable. But even with children we became very selective. With our limited time, manpower and resources, only the best children in difficult situations qualified. Teachers in the township schools selected the boys and then the boys attended our camps.

During our weekend camps boys were placed into 3 groups:

“A” group – Excellent! Highly motivated, teachable, accept discipline. Spend as much time as we can with them. “A” group boys attend all the camps.

“B” group – Have potential to become “A” group, but not 100% convinced they belong in “A”. Keep inviting them on occasion to the camps, but keep your eye on them.

“C” group – Just don’t qualify for “A” or “B” groups. If there is something a large group can be involved in, invite them, but continue to focus on “A” group.

Now we have 11 boys in “A” group, 9 in “B” group and too many to count in “C” group.

The transformation of these boys has been spectacular. We had to start by teaching them to bath properly and even use the toilet properly. Now we focus on: Working Hard vs Laziness, Guarding their eyes, Making choices and Quality character. All principles based out of the Bible.

Now that we moving to Centralia, WA USA, our plan is to continue supporting the children: School costs, school supplies, books, clothing, blankets, shoes, food, additional classes, character training material, and miscellaneous emergencies..

We also hope to return regularly with teams to host camps during the school holiday times. If you would like to join one of those teams, we would like to talk to you.

For those who like numbers, here is what is costs to run a camp:

Housing $955 (USD)

Food $441

Training / Activity Costs $352

Transportation Costs $133

Total $1881

Monthly cost per boy for weekend camps was $171 (USD)

Annual support for each boy:

School Fees $30 (USD)

Coats, Clothing, Uniforms, Shoes $50

Backpacks and School Supplies $12

Food $22

Computer Class $18

Boys Youth Bible $30

Total $162

(Watch) See a short video about Gift of Joy South Africa

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7. Can Teams Come and Help With Flood Relief?


Imagine the stress of being a mom, dad, husband, wife, son, daughter and having a thief break into your home. Not only does this thief steal all your stuff, but covers everything in your home and property with a thick 4-6 inches of mud, destroys the house and you become homeless. This happened to 1000 homes in the Centralia, WA, USA area and 7000 in the region.

The President of the United States has declared the area a disaster area. This doesn’t mean the government will repair your life, it just means the military, federal, state, and local government have been sent to step in and fix major problems like destroyed roads and bridges. Like in hurricane Katrina, the government can only do so much. Now individuals need to get involved. Amazingly, during hurricane Katrina the Centralia community stepped up and contributed tremendous amounts for its small size.

Now is an opportunity to get a generous community back on its feet again. If you would like to bring a team to adopt a family, please let me know. Of course this is not a job offer, but we will do our best to provide you with housing. More importantly you will build friendships with some of the greatest people on the planet that will last a lifetime.

Email us about sending a team at jr@giftofjoy.org or anita@giftofjoy.org

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8. Will You Lead Teams to China or South Africa?

Yes. If you are interested in going to South Africa or China in 2008, please let us know. Trying to describe what we are doing with the children in China and South Africa is like someone who has never tried an orange asking you, “What does an orange taste like?

It would just be better for them to try an orange, because no matter how diligently you describe the experience of eating an orange it never matches up the actually eating an orange. So just come and experience the incredible opportunity of being a part of these outstanding children in these amazing countries.

Email us at jr@giftofjoy.org or anita@giftofjoy.org to get more info.

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9. Status of Building School Computer Labs in South Africa?


A year ago back in Centralia, WA USA, the Lewis County government and Chehalis School district donated over 400 computers. Two hundred of the 400 qualified to be sent to South Africa, and a local Seattle company took the broken computers which saved us a large sum of money in garbage removal fees. The community came together with the goal of helping Gift of Joy build computer labs in South Africa!

Here in South Africa we saw so many people come together. Technicians for setup, computer training schools to teach the teachers, an internet company for … internet, Rotary clubs were in the process of evaluating schools, and we could put a computer in a school for a fraction of the costs. We could save the schools 88% on building a computer lab.

It was all very exciting until we ran into culture and bureaucracy. It reminded me of a starving person asking for food, yet after providing an orange, they asked to have it peeled. After it was peeled they asked to have it placed in their mouth. Then mumbling with a mouth full of orange slices they said, “Can you help me chew this?” So you take hold of their jaw and move it in a chewing motion.

Another problem has been funding the shipment costs to South Africa from the USA. US$ 3000 had been donated, but we need an additional $5000. We even have a plan for the schools to help us recover the shipping costs so that we can use the initial $8000 over and over to fund following shipments of computers. But no funds from the USA or South African schools came.

Now … a couple of days ago … after 4 months of the government regularly assuring me this project would be endorsed they informed me these computers would not be allowed into South Africa! Can you believe it? This is even after getting help from some of the top leaders. We can now take an appeal all the way to the Supreme Court of South Africa, but I don’t think I have the time, energy, or finances for that.

I am so sorry for putting all the people in Centralia, WA USA through all the effort to prepare these computers. But now we are looking into helping families hit by the massive floods in the Centralia region.

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10. What’s It Like Picking Up the Boys in a Township?


One of my best memories is driving through bumpy dirt township roads with 15 boys and their stuff packed into my 1996 Jeep Cherokee. Usually the boys like to sing … well … shout with David Crowder’s song “We Win.” That is a great memory.

To get to that point … “OH the effort!” Faxes to the schools. Text messages to the teachers. Forms for the parents to sign. Specific instructions for the boys to prepare for the camp. When and where to wait for us.

Now I have learned. Just because we have confirmed multiple times with the school and teachers that the boys have received our information, it does not mean a thing. Now as I drive up I usually see a handful of boys ready. The others were not told by their teachers or the school. So I get to spend the next two hours locating boys scattered throughout the township. At first I was a bit scared, but now as I drive or walk around I hear people yell, “JR is here! Where is (boy’s name)?” I have become local!

I often shake my head as little boys aged 3 – 4 years of age jump into the Jeep and guide me around the township to search for the boys, and they know exactly how to find the boys. Then these little ones jump out and walk all the way home passing stumbling drunks, and no one thinks this is strange.

Once we find the boys, step one is complete. By the way … I always find the boys in positive activities. Now I take the boy to his house and he gathers his stuff because they are always excited about our camps. But the problem is their teacher didn’t give them the information to give their guardian or parent. So if I take them, no one knows where they are … this is usually not a problem for the people in the township … but we are encouraging responsibility, so they need to sign a permission slip. Now we need to find the guardian or parent.

The good thing is there is a reason these boys are outstanding. Their guardians or parents are usually pretty good people, they just live in a crazy environment. But we do have to go find them. Sometimes we have brought all the boys back to our house, waited a couple of hours, returned in the dark to the boys’ homes, found the parents, loaded up the boys and their things and celebrated.

Once we find the boys, packed their stuff, permission slips signed, then we drive for about 15 minutes to our house, and camp starts with everyone taking a shower, dinner and bedtime!

Good Times!

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